I learnt the hard way that too much optimism is toxic. Due to my high optimism I got an anxiety attack. It become so bad to the point that I had glimpse of why some people end up taking their life. Optimism if not controlled will blind us. We will think everything will be okay without having to do anything. We are happy and satisfied most of the time. We are not actually. We do feel anxious. But we covered it up with optimism. False optimism.

Untuk menghasilkan sesuatu yang boleh dipanggil luar biasa, kita kena lakukan sesuatu yang luar biasa. Luar biasa bermaksud, luar dari kebiasaan. Jika kebiasaan kita itu dalam bulatan besar. Kita perlu berada di luar bulatan besar itu. Mana boleh makan nak makan nasi briani, pergi masak nasi kosong. Tak mungkin pandai…

After a few posts, I realised using “we” instead of “you” is a much more humbling experience.

The only question is whether we acknowledge it or not. Knowing that people are as vulnerable as we are at that moment may help with our own anxiety. Go little bit further by being there for them, show that we care, we understand, we felt the same way. Make it a daily mission that we want to improve somebody’s day, even with a smile.

Each of has our own way seeing the world. It was shaped based on our experience, interest, values and some other things overtime. Our worldview is not static. It evolves. It evolves based on our new daily experiences. Our new input of data of the world. To understand other people’s worldview requires empathy. It’s putting ourself in their shoes and looking from their eyes. But the best we could do is only guessing what their worldview are.

The past few weeks I found a strategy that helps me read effectively. The strategy was simple. Read in a cafe for a few good hours. I don’t go there to drink coffee or chocolate drinks. If I can go there without ordering the drinks, I would. But it’s not…

The main question is, do we want to be helped? Are we able to listen, acknowledge and discuss without judgement that we want to do something about the situation that we are in? Do we want to change? Or we just want to live with the pain? But sometime without…

Critic when done right will help the people you are giving the critic. It will help them grow, improve or be better. But when done wrong, it gives meaningless. Worst it will make the other person’s day who being criticised a bad day. When giving critic, tell why it won’t work from your point of view. And if possible give some input on what you think can be the solution. But with an empathy that the person may take or not what you said.

Basecamp is a Project Management & Communication Software like many others. I would say its nothing special about Basecamp. They just provide a simple tools that is not a mind blowing new idea (They are more then 20 years old). But their simple tools works. It works because the tools…